'Look beyond your navel'

(about Saurav and me)

Almost everyone starts his or her career managing a simple task, then you get to manage more than one task, and people start calling these tasks projects. After a while, you come to manage people who manage projects. It’s at that point that people become your project. You will never rise as far as you want to if you do not develop a reputation for leadership, which I learnt now. Unfortunately few things are more difficult to acquire. The most complex undertaking that anyone faces in a career is managing other people. There is only one thing in life that is more complex, and that is raising children. The difference is, the people at work have to listen to you.

Saurav Ganguly has already proven himself as the most successful captain of the Indian cricket team. He balls, bats and gives his best on the field. But the flip side of the story is totally different. When Sreesanth came to Indian Express for Idea Exchange, he was asked who is the best all rounder in the Indian team during the questioning rounds. “Dada is the best all rounder and fielder of the Indian team”, he said mockingly. There could be other players also who feels the same and dislikes him completely. However after so many criticisms he is still standing and has made a superb comeback. He is surely one of my many idols. I truly have learnt from his resilience. It is very apparent that whenever somebody is making headway there are noises and one simply have to endeavor hard without worrying.

People will not stop saying that Ganguly is not a good captain. He wants to win all the matches on his own. He never gives chances to others. He likes people to say good words about him. They could have performed much better under some other captain. You can’t stop people by saying this all BULL SHIT. Whereas truth says, Ganguly is the one under whose captaincy India has won many matches. He is the one who has actually made players like Zaheer Khan, Harbhajan Singh, Yuvraj Singh and so many.

No captain wants to do all things by himself. It is the team who he leading is itself a big task. He can motivate, encourage, mentor the players but he cannot enter the body of players and give the needed performance. It is the players who need to perform on field and if they are not performing, nothing wrong if he himself wants to ball or put on task and setting an example. BCCI has always blamed him that he always wants to be good with everybody. Why not? There is nothing wrong again; he is a captain and leading a team and not living in a seclusion.

Every leadership has his own advantages and disadvantages. Ganguly is more of an aggressive captain than Rahul who is rather very cool. Dhoni is a great captain with a good combination of aggression and cool attitude. Players may come or may go but captains will always remain distinctive. I personally salute the great leadership of all these captains, bosses, directors, mentors and all the seniors leading the team.

'I am HIV+'

(A real story of my friend)
A guy, who saves his virginity till he turns 25, got orally contacted with a girl and lately fallen in the supine act with no contraceptives. He talked about this unsafe act to his friends who warned him to not to be such resistless while making any contact. He spent his days in panic for the mistake that he had done. The feeling of acquiring the irrecoverable disease was haunting him the most.

Once there was a blood donation camp organised by the university in the campus. He with his appalling thoughts chipped in to donate his blood to know whether he is infected or not. The doctor injected him to take his blood test and gone inside another room to check his blood group and purity. He was perishing with fear of the blood-test result. Doctor comes and tells that his blood group is O+ and he can donate his blood if he wants, which gave him a huge sigh of relief. He donated his blood afterwards. But this daunting feeling had almost killed him of no reason for thinking the consequences of this horrifying disease. It taught him a lesson of the use of contraceptives.

'Keep your friends closer and enemies even more closely'

Friends are always in a bond-ship and that is what the friends are for, but enemy? Though there is no word in my dictionary called ‘enemy’, so I call them snob. One who is condescends toward or disdainful of those who hold other opinions and don’t respect others, are snob. I don’t feel that there is any enemy of anybody. There are people who are disrespectful to others are the real foes.

I am here justifying the above idiom in a different way. The idiom says that if you keep your enemy closer than your friends, you are unlikely to get hurt later. I say that if you keep your enemy closer then there are chances that you might end up making him/her your best friend, and it has proved right in many cases, at least for me. However I must warn you that it is a feeble task, as it could also go wrong and leave you in pain, so please be cautious while doing that.

I never think of any consequences, so I end-up winning sometime and crying most of the time, but it hardly moves me as I never stop. If I end-up crying, I crib and cry for days and lately cope-up and move on but always ready to help the guilty just to make him/her better for good reasons. My close friends keep on yelling at me that why do I go again where I have already been hurt and try to be nice but my idiotic emotions disregard it always. One should always work closely with his enemies to know them better and make them better by showing your love and the best. At times some do realise their mistakes and some do not, but it’s a part of life. It is their misfortune if they still hate you for no reasons. It is good to learn from your mistakes and your bad experiences. But one should not do the same that these snobs do to you, as there will be no difference then. Believe me guys this is only a thought that I am sharing with you rather than giving you any gyan. -- Love